March 1st:
A fun filled evening. Dozens of people, including me, came together to celebrate a close friend’s baby shower. The news headlines on this day announced that there were 8 cases of Covid 19 in British Columbia, all travel related. The term social distancing was not yet as widely discussed.
I spent the evening amidst light hearted laughter, plenty of good food and great company. Most guests attending were equally carefree, just enjoying the occasion with no inkling of what’s to come.
March 21st:
It’s been 17 days since I last stepped out of my home. It’s a beautiful sunny day. The headlines today announced that there are now 424 Covid 19 cases and 10 deaths in British Columbia. Another headline proclaimed that doctors here say that the province is on track with Italy. And yet the parking lot of Dollarama across the road from my home is full of cars. People are casually walking in and out of the store, cars are speeding by and things do not look any different today outside my window.
The last couple of weeks have been a rollercoaster for me, as they’ve been for everyone around the world. I have been ardently following the news, sometimes hitting the refresh button every hour only to be increasingly alarmed. Grim forecasts of how things are only going to get worse to the unimaginable economic doom that is yet to come. Stories have been floating around about how people are buying Lysol wipes in bulk and reselling them for profit and people sending death threats to a couple for meat hoarding.
The thoughts that have been mercilessly encroaching my mind are not pretty. What if the death toll continues to rise here? What if I get sick and am unable to get medical attention? What happens to our jobs if we are locked down for months on end? What if we are on the brink of a complete system failure? Will it be each man for himself?
I have oscillated between panicking for being unable to find disinfecting products anywhere to giving up completely in despair. And yet, for each story about selfish hoarding there are numerous stories about “caremongering” groups helping those affected by the pandemic. People stranded abroad are giving up the last flight seats home to those in need. Countless people are looking beyond themselves and lending a helping hand, entertaining others quarantined at home and doing what they can to make lives just a little bit better for others.
This is a moment unlike any other we have experienced ever before. We are teetering on the edge and what we do now has the potential to define our future. Will our society drift into lawlessness and violence as things get more grim or will we come together and rise? Will we give into despair and depression as we stay under lockdown indefinitely? Or will we be brave enough to take the journey inwards and come out better?
I have always been an anxious person. I worry about the smallest things and often wonder how I’ll be able to face some of the challenges of life. And yet, when push comes to shove I have managed to face whatever comes my way. In the most critical moment, a sense of calm unlike anything else I’ve experienced before comes over me. The strength to deal with the situation comes automatically. I have experienced this twice before in my life. Once when I was lying alone in a hospital bed after an accident, waiting for a test to tell me if I’d be paralyzed from the waist down if I moved. The second time was when I managed to reach the hospital at the last moment to give birth to my daughter and was told there was no time for an epidural (I was terrified of giving birth).
In both these instances I managed, no credit to me, to deal with the situation with such strength and grace that I surprised myself. In the worst imaginable moment, human beings have the capability to shine. We have the ability to meet the challenge gracefully and come out stronger. We create our best art, our most moving music and come up with the most creative ideas during difficult times. Most importantly, we are capable of forgetting our differences and coming together when it matters the most.
Last week again was the decisive moment for me. After ceaselessly worrying about the events of the world and spending a few sleepless nights, the moment came.
Acceptance. The realization that what is, is. The only thing I can do is to stay home and keep washing my hands. I can try to fill my days with creative, constructive hobbies or risk slipping into a dark hole that I’ll be unable to climb out of. I can worry about running out of food, start hoarding or try to come up with ways to use up everything in my pantry. I can get frustrated and snap at my husband out of cabin fever or I can take this time to reconnect with him like I’ve never been able to before. I can feel lonely or I can reach out to others who may also be feeling lonely.
That familiar feeling of calm again came over me.
This is the decisive moment for everyone.